The proverb “Behind every great man is a great woman” has a literal meaning. It means that a woman has been playing a significant role when a man has succeeded. And, it applies no matter what that man has accomplished—tangible or intangible. The phrase applies to every woman who may not have received the credit for their work at first. This is especially applicable to my late wife, Ida. I, therefore, honor her here.
It is hard to accept the death of a loved one, especially when you didn’t have the chance to say goodbye, when the deceased was taken so suddenly, so unexpectedly, and so shockingly in the prime of their life, when it seems like an irreplaceable part of one’s own life is gone.
The grief and pain can be unbearable. You just never really know what it’s like until you are there, yourself, but you look to God for answers because he is the only one who can comfort you.
Death and indeed, a death so sudden and painful as the death of my wife, makes you realize the brevity of our time here on Earth. Ida was my best friend, lover, companion, partner, and wife. She was my biggest cheerleader in life and in the practice of law. She quietly and patiently moved about in the background all the while cheering my law firm on and wishing me the best of luck in court each and every day. She was a gentle soul who wanted only the best for me and those I represented. She met a few clients over the years and was ever so kind and encouraging to them, as she was to me. Her warm smile and reserved manner were always present and inspiring.
So many times I researched “just one more case” as she patiently waited for me to finish up so that we could unwind together and go out to enjoy a good meal or some entertainment. She really only wanted the best outcomes for me and the people that I represented, hence this tribute.
Ida, having you in my life was the best dream come true. I truly won the Powerball Lottery on the day that we met! Since you’ve left this world, words cannot describe the emptiness inside of me. I am sure that you are with the Lord. You can no longer be seen by the human eye, but your soul and the love that you gave to so many will never die. You loved unconditionally. I know that you are watching over me now.
I have placed this page on this website not for a display of my sadness and grief, but as a tribute to your goodness, encouragement, quest for truth and fairness, and as the driving force behind me—to keep me positive and moving forward each day. You always stated: “each person should be helped if you are able to do so; to improve their life or condition.” So, I have you here for all to remember and be inspired. We used to tease and laugh while rolling our eyes at one another but you were always profound and unique.
I cherished you and cherish your memory and want you to know that your legacy of love lives on. You taught society-at-large how to be loving, kind, and humble to all that crossed your path. We were all blessed to witness your inner and outer beauty and your childlike sense of wonder for a short period of time. I will keep your words and actions in the forefront of my mind at all times. I will try to help all those who scan this website seeking out my knowledge and assistance, and do so in a way to always make you proud of me.
I love you and miss you.